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Signs of a Liar

Written by admin on July 25th, 2009

If a person looks up and to the right before answering a question are they telling the truth? What about looking to the left? Do you know the “pantomine,” or the eighteen different tell-tale signs of a liar? I can always tell when my daughter is lying because falsehoods begin with the phrase: “um . . . uh . . . what’s it called?”

It’s a scary prospect when the person lying happens to be your spouse and you suspect an affair. Even after years of disharmony signs of an affair can come as a shock. We may sense we’re drifting out to sea and feel the life-line being stretched thin but somehow we never think it will snap. If you ask your spouse straight out, a skilled liar will know enough not to over react; an amateur will become outraged. Either way you may not know what to believe. What are the signs?

In days of old there were the paper trails that proved irrefutable. Now that we are living in the electronic age hard copy receipts are obtainable but paper has become less reliable. Still there are ways. Cell phones that come with tracking devices are available if you want to go the route of amateur sleuth. Along the same lines are actual bugging devices and, of course, you can hire a professional. If hiring a professional is simply not who you are or beyond your means and you feel compelled to get at the truth, Deep Throat’s advice to Bob Woodward is always a good place to begin: “follow the money.” If you keep your money separate as some couples do, it’s back to square one. This is getting slightly ahead of the game, however.

To begin at the beginning, you would never want to falsely accuse your beloved of cheating unless you were convinced of it. Everyone of us is more than capable of putting two and two together to come up with eleven, and jumping to conclusions can make for a whole lot of trouble. Suppose you went through all that, learned the awful truth, gathered the evidence and confronted your spouse, what would be the desired result? That may seem like an absurd question to some but, before you make that giant leap it’s best to know what you’re jumping into.

A woman’s intuition is often better than a man’s even that is not infallible. Several words of advice are perhaps in order before going off half-baked:

Never assume anything.

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7 Top Signs Of Cheating In A Relationship

Written by admin on May 22nd, 2009

If you suspect your partner at all, you should look for signs of cheating in a relationship. Usually if you see smoke, a fire is burning somewhere. So if you have doubt in your partners fidelity, theres probably a reason.

Remember that just because you see signs of cheating in a relationship, though, that doesnt necessarily mean that cheating is going on. Once youve seen the signs, youll have to look further to determine if cheating is really happening.

And sometimes there are no signs of cheating in a relationship and yet cheating is going on. Its not an easy position to be in, to have to figure these things out.

The following signs can certainly lead you one direction or another. Dont make a decision just based on one or even a few of them. But a lot of evidence can certainly let you know that something may be wrong, and you may want to look at little closer.

Secret cell phone conversations are one of the top signs. If your partner leaves the room every time the cell phone rings, you have to wonder why. Were they taught thats polite? If theyre at all strange acting about the conversation, you should pay attention.

Sudden change in hygiene is common when someone is having an affair. If your partner never goes to any special trouble for you to make sure he or she looks and smells good, a change in this could be worrisome. If theyre making themselves nice for you, thats great. If theyre dolling up to go out, you have to wonder why.

More arguments can be one of the signs of cheating in a relationship. Particularly if it seems your partner is starting the argument for no reason and then storming out because of it. It could be just an excuse to leave and have some time away from you without having to come up with another excuse.

Catching your partner in a lie can mean trouble. Even the smallest lie shows that persons willingness to lie in general. Look for connections between that lie and the possibility of an affair.

An increase in computer time can be a bad sign. If your partner is spending hours online after youre in bed or while youre doing other things, it could be an affair.

A common sign of cheating is if your friends act strange. They might know something you dont and feel uncomfortable around you.

And a painfully common sign of cheating is if your partner accuses you of cheating or hints that he thinks you might be having an affair. Very often, thats a guilty conscious talking and youre being accused of the thing thats causing him or her guilt.

The only way to know for sure is to have real evidence. So remember that even though these are common signs of cheating in a relationship, none of them can be used to prove an affair is occurring.

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Three Common Signs of a Cheating Wife

Written by admin on February 19th, 2009

If you suspect that your wife is stepping out on you, it is important to realize there will be signs that will reveal if there is some reason for you to think she is being unfaithful. Here are the three most common signs of a cheating wife that you should be on the lookout for.

First, a wife who is cheating may begin to become a little more remote in all aspects of the relationship. In the bedroom, she may begin to frequently have a headache or be too tired when you indicate that you are in the mood for sex. Around the house, she may no longer attempt to engage you in conversation or ask your opinion on various matters. When these sorts of things take place, there is a good chance she is having her need for intimacy and companionship met elsewhere.

Next, a wife who is cheating may begin to make changes in her appearance. This may include new clothing, new lingerie and a new hairstyle and makeup. The sudden increased interest in physical appearance is usually an attempt to please her lover and stoke the fires of the affair. When the wife does not make it a point to ask her husband what he thinks about the new clothes or does not make it a point to model the new lingerie, there is a good chance something is going on.

One of the last sure-fire signs of a cheating wife is a sudden increase in outside activities takes place. Because women are in the work place along with men, the excuse of working late now is used by both husbands and wives who cheat. When the wife develops all sorts of reasons to not be free to do things with the family, there is a good chance she is cheating.

It is important to note that just because there are signs of a cheating wife, that is not automatically a confirmation that she is indeed cheating. While circumstances may look bad, there could very well be legitimate reasons why she is suddenly less attentive to her husband. There may indeed be extra work at the office that must be done, and she could have decided to become more active in community events that do not include having an affair. Before jumping to conclusions, it is a good idea to investigate all possible reasons for the changes in behavior. This approach will help to alleviate fears of an affair, and also avoid creating hard feelings if there is actually nothing going on.

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Four Common Signs of Liars

Written by admin on February 19th, 2009

The bottom line is that people dont always tell the truth. While many folks tell little white lies in order to avoid hurting peoples feelings, there is the hard core liar who knows he or she has done something wrong and is trying to cover up. Fortunately, there are a few indicators that will help you know when someone is lying to you. Here are four common signs of liars that will put you on the road to discovering the truth.

The classic indication that someone is lying is an inability to look you in the eye when telling the whopper. Some liars try to compensate for this by focusing on a point on the face that is near the eyes, such as the eyebrows or the nose. Unless you are watching closely, you may even think the liar is looking you square in the eye. Also be on the lookout for the flip-flop; this is a strategy in which the liars eyes dart away and back to your eyes while offering up the untruth.

Second in the common signs of liars is an extreme change in body language. This shift may take the form of folding the arms and placing the legs close together, almost into a defensive posture.

At the other end of the spectrum, the liar may have the arms wide open and lean into your personal space, almost as if attempting to emphasize the truthful nature of the lie. People who are telling the truth tend to change posture very little while speaking. Watch for sudden and extreme changes and be very wary of what you are being told when they happen.

Changes in tone and inflection can also indicate that what you are hearing is not the truth. Some people unconsciously raise the tone of their voice when telling lie. At the same time, they tend to depart from their normal range of inflection. For example, if the individual normally enunciates clearly but begins to slur words slightly, they may be telling a lie. By the same token, if the individual normally speaks rapidly and suddenly slows the pace, it may because they are spouting words they know are not true.

The last of the four main signs has to do with multiple repetitions of the lie. It is almost as if the liar has to repeat the lie several times in order to convince himself that the lie is actually the truth.

When a liar feels the need to attest to the truthfulness of a statement several times in a space of just a few minutes, something is definitely wrong. Look at the remarks very closely before accepting them as truth. Keep in mind that there is usually more than one indicator present at any given time.

Expect to see two or more signs of liars to be present when an individual is intentionally spouting an untruth. Learning these basic signs will help you to be on your guard and not be sucked in when someone starts spinning a yarn of some type.

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10 Signs of Cheating Spouse Activity You Should Watch For

Written by admin on February 19th, 2009

While many people see marriage as a committed relationship where fidelity is essential, there are others who see nothing wrong with a dalliance outside the marriage now and then. Usually, their spouses do not share that philosophy. If you suspect that you and your spouse have differing opinions on the issue of fidelity, here are 10 signs of cheating spouse activity you should be on the lookout for.

1. He or she suddenly is working late. If there is a raise, a special project, or a possible promotion in the offing, this may be legitimate and free of any hanky panky. But if it seems as if your spouse works late one, then two, then three nights a week without any of these situations existing, something may be up.

2. New clothes. If your spouse begins to purchase clothing that is a little younger or a little different in style from what he or she normally likes, it may be a sign of the influence of a new playmate. This is especially true if these new styles are not anything you have suggested would look good on your spouse.

3. Sexy undergarments. If your man goes from wearing boxers to bikini briefs without asking your opinion, then he did not buy them for your benefit. By the same token, if a woman buys sexy lingerie and does not model the ensemble for her husband, rest assured somebody else is getting the benefit of the visual delight.

4. Fresh scents. If your spouse has worn the same cologne or perfume for years and decides to go with something new and trendy, this may be an attempt to become more desirable - to someone other than you.

5. Change in Hygiene Habits. More frequent showers, changing soaps and shampoos for no apparent reason, and carrying breath mints around after avoiding them like the plague for years means something is probably up.

6. Preoccupation. If a spouse is cheating, there is often a certain amount of withdrawal. The cheating spouse becomes quieter around the house, often contributing less to conversations.

7. Decrease in sexual activity. When a spouse who used to display a great deal of interest in engaging in sex and being affectionate begins to be tired and have frequent headaches at bedtime, it could be they are having their needs met elsewhere.

8. Overcompensation. This is one of the most common of all the 10 signs of cheating spouse activity. The cheating wife may go out of her way to be understanding when her husband wants to go out with his buddies. In like manner, the cheating husband may start showing up with flowers and other little gifts for no apparent reason.

9. Money is disappearing. Motel rooms are not free. If money seems to be a little tighter even though the family budget shows no new bills, something may be up.

10. Changes in temperament. Cheating spouses may suddenly become easily irritated, or develop a great deal of apathy. This loss in interest may begin in the bedroom and spread to other areas of the marriage in a short period of time.

While there are other explanations for all of the 10 signs of cheating spouse activity, it is important to recognize these possible signs that something is up. When two or more become apparent, take steps to find out if there is a problem or if the sign is the result of some other set of circumstances that do not involve cheating.

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