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Relationship Questions You Need To Ask

Written by admin on August 26th, 2009

If you want to fix your relationship, then you need to ask the right question. Relationship repair can be tricky in the best of times, which is why you need to know the right questions, relationship questions, to get the information you need to repair what has been broken.

This is not necessarily an easy thing to do. Most of us won’t want to ask these questions, relationship problems or not. This is because the natural human reaction to things is to try and avoid the problem as much as possible.

But relationship problems will not fix themselves. You need to make the effort to fix them, not wait for your ex to magically come around. You are the one who has realized there is a problem, and this means that you have to be the one to do the work to fix it. Whether you like it or not, it’s become your responsibility.

Which brings us to the questions. Relationship questions are not easy to ask, but the answers will be worthwhile. This is the information you need to do the work that will bring you back to having a healthy relationship with your girlfriend or boyfriend, husband or wife.

Question One: What Do You Want?

This is a question you need to ask yourself and your significant other. You need to ask yourself because you need to be able to know and articulate what it is you want from your relationship. You need to ask them so that you know that the things you want from the relationship are, if not the same, then at least compatible.

Question Two: What Were Our Best Times?

This is another question designed to get you looking at how the two of you view your relationship. If you both view different times in your relationship as the best times, this will give you a very strong indication of where things went wrong, which is the point of these questions. Relationship is based on knowing what these questions will tell you.

Question Three: What Don’t You Like?

Again, this is a question both of you need to ask. This is an area where it is crucial that you don’t assign blame and don’t allow your emotions to be hurt. You need to take a full inventory of where you stand and knowing what it bothering both of you is essential.

Question Four: Where are we Heading?

The point of this is question is to see where you both think the relationship should and where it will go. Without knowing this, you won’t know how bad the relationship is. If your partner thinks that the relationship is doomed to failure, this is information you need to know.

The point of doing all this is to find the true answers to these questions. Relationship rescue will be much easier when you have this information, because it will give a roadmap of the problems you need to resolve to have a stronger relationship. This is only the beginning, and you should seek out and find the information that will allow you to overcome these problems.

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Signs of a Liar

Written by admin on July 25th, 2009

If a person looks up and to the right before answering a question are they telling the truth? What about looking to the left? Do you know the “pantomine,” or the eighteen different tell-tale signs of a liar? I can always tell when my daughter is lying because falsehoods begin with the phrase: “um . . . uh . . . what’s it called?”

It’s a scary prospect when the person lying happens to be your spouse and you suspect an affair. Even after years of disharmony signs of an affair can come as a shock. We may sense we’re drifting out to sea and feel the life-line being stretched thin but somehow we never think it will snap. If you ask your spouse straight out, a skilled liar will know enough not to over react; an amateur will become outraged. Either way you may not know what to believe. What are the signs?

In days of old there were the paper trails that proved irrefutable. Now that we are living in the electronic age hard copy receipts are obtainable but paper has become less reliable. Still there are ways. Cell phones that come with tracking devices are available if you want to go the route of amateur sleuth. Along the same lines are actual bugging devices and, of course, you can hire a professional. If hiring a professional is simply not who you are or beyond your means and you feel compelled to get at the truth, Deep Throat’s advice to Bob Woodward is always a good place to begin: “follow the money.” If you keep your money separate as some couples do, it’s back to square one. This is getting slightly ahead of the game, however.

To begin at the beginning, you would never want to falsely accuse your beloved of cheating unless you were convinced of it. Everyone of us is more than capable of putting two and two together to come up with eleven, and jumping to conclusions can make for a whole lot of trouble. Suppose you went through all that, learned the awful truth, gathered the evidence and confronted your spouse, what would be the desired result? That may seem like an absurd question to some but, before you make that giant leap it’s best to know what you’re jumping into.

A woman’s intuition is often better than a man’s even that is not infallible. Several words of advice are perhaps in order before going off half-baked:

Never assume anything.

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